As much as we are accountable to our own walk with Christ, we are accountable to each other. I thought I would be honest and talk about things that stumble me up as a believer.
Those who are meant to strengthen and encourage us can also stumble us.
When Believers Don’t Include You/Use You
This was something I experienced in my Toxic Church Experience when I was looking for a new church. No one knows you. I feel people who are secure in their church try to feel out newcomers. “Are they saved?” feels like the main question, and if you are saved, have a relationship with Christ, you get sorta tossed.
With me, people try to lecture me, to hand down some “advice” or help to me because they don’t know my relationship with Christ. But when they find I can easily talk to them, and challenge them with what I want to talk about (being older adults) my “mentors” tend to fade away. Like, I’m of no value to them.
My experience was no matter what I did to try to involve myself with my peers, cause I really wanted Christian friends, it didn’t matter. They were always too busy for me, but not for each other.
This tends to be a problem when people try to join a new church. A lot of believers don’t know the word community. We don’t have a community in many churches in this modern age. We have routine. We have our clicks. But we don’t function as the body of Christ the way Christ told us.
There are some true churches that haven’t forsaken the purpose of a church family. There are some churches that are working on becoming better. It isn’t the building that needs help and learn to work together. It’s the body of Christ, the people.
God used these experiences to show me how others struggle, and while it is a stumbling block. God has given me a perspective while humbling me through. If you’re in the same situation, understand you aren’t alone. God isn’t done. 🙂
When Believers Don’t Talk About Christ
Church, sure. Tons of talk about scriptures, God, Christ, and the Holy Spirit. Outside of that? Nahhh.
It astounds me. Christ should be a crucial part of our daily life and walk with Him. We should be seeing Him speaking to us in many ways. We should be actively seeking Him out. We should know what we struggle with in our life, and work on applying to prayer.
Why don’t we talk about these things to each other? Why does this tend to only happen in a set place? I don’t like that, and it troubles me.
When A Praise Or Thankfulness Is Focused On Self
This was one reason why I wrote my post Problems When We Only Discuss Blessings | Hear Me Out . Somehow what God has helped us get through, or blessed us with becomes a focal point instead of the fact that God was the One in charge.
I don’t like believers speaking/writing in this manner. It rises us up to be this “special” person or God picked us out of everyone else. Or we are so blessed and special because WE’RE saved. I’ve heard multiple times in church and elsewhere people giving out a list of how blessed and special they are because of God. And majority paragraphs of what is said focuses on them, and their “speciality or strength.” The only time God is mentioned, “God blessed me.” Or, “God gave me…”
It’s not humility. It’s not a testimony. Testimonies are all about God moving mountains through our weakness. What it is, is a bragging list full of pride in self.
This…this is a problem!
We are nothing, okay. We’re dust of this earth. It is Jesus Christ who gives us everything. It was Christ who sat with the sinners, and the ones the believers of that day thought were unworthy. Christ chooses the unworthy. He uses the broken.
But here we are again, and believers of today put focus on themselves, standing in the streets, proclaiming to be heard, and to look good. All the while our soul rots within us because it’s become more about the outside self, then the inside soul letting the Holy Spirit take control.
Consider this, Paul never boasted of his gifts, and he was given many! Instead, we only see him in Corinthians finally say, “I’ll boast of my weakness so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” He said this after God refused to remove the thorn at his side. Maybe it was there to keep Paul humble.
God does indeed bless us and give us abilities and gifts. But we shouldn’t be so blinded about “us” that we forget the main REASON why we are on the narrow path in the first path. We didn’t get ourselves there. We won’t grow if we focus on us.
When Christians Curse (especially in blogging)
I know some habits are tough to break. But when I see Christians use curse words in blog posts, I’ll admit, it stumbles me. Christian bloggers are ones I feel I can read posts in a more safe and secure place. I don’t want to worry about words and descriptions I don’t want to see.
Writers have the choice to choose what words are used. Versus when people work on not cursing out loud, sometimes they slip up. Writing more so focuses on our free will and choice. We have a delete button.
What is the point of using a curse word? I’ve read people (more than once) use curse words as defense. God loves me, etc. etc. etc. Sure, He does love us. But does He approve of what image we are giving? Are we going to speak that way to God? It seems the phrase, “God loves me,” is used more as a excuse for our behavior than the reason we should change to become more Christlike.
He loves us. We love Him. We should want to be like Him. That’s the beauty of becoming an new creation in Christ. We don’t have to stick to our old ways.
When Christian Content Is Questionable
Similarly, when songs, movies, and posts are proclaimed to be Christian but don’t reflect Christ. It stumbles me, and breaks my trust.
One key thing we all should work on adapting, and I’m being convicted as well, would Jesus say this? Would He do this? Would He view this?
Is what we’re doing putting the spotlight on Christ or something else?