I had a comment that really made me want to expand more on what I wrote yesterday and I hope to bring more clarity to the topic- Truth Of Honoring Our Body Beyond Modesty & Intimacy With God
A Little Backstory About Me & How I Write
I’ve never really shared this, and I think it may be helpful to know 🙂
As a Christian writer, and the fact that since I’ve been 13 I’ve felt God has called me to write for believers in a way that is challenging against what many think. In many discussions, we are so “surface” level when it comes to topics that have HUGE consequences and what those statements mean. It’s either yes or no, it’s either wrong or right.
However, saying one sentence or reading a paragraph out of the Bible, WILL NOT STOP someone from making those choices. Which is why I said I think teens can really take a lot from the post. Sex is very taboo that we put caution tape around it with no further explanation. We get so guarded because we do not want others to fall into sin. We don’t want them to fall away from Jesus.
But I think…we put too much focus on sin sometimes, or a way to be “Christlike” than we do talking about Christ, and what it means to truly have a relationship with Him. Truthfully, we can’t get to part C if we haven’t started with A. If people do not have a relationship with Christ, they won’t care, and if we do not have the proper relationship with Christ then we are deceived and are backsliding believers.
In spring 2011, I was 21 and I wanted to push my walk with Christ. Unlike when I was younger, one thing that was new was that I started having what I refer to as “lessons” from Him imparted to my heart. Just little phrases that would appear to me. The very first one was, “I will always provide another way.”
My relationship with Jesus Christ, God the Father, and the Almighty Holy Spirit is so much bigger than just words on a page or a sermon people constantly preach. His lessons have an impact because I KNOW HIM! He drew crowds to Him not only because of how He spoke but in the manner He did and how He acted. This is why I want to show people another way of thinking. 🙂 ❤ Because that’s what He has shown me against this world and against what the majority (including believers) focus on.
And this then leads to my direction on the post yesterday. Truth Of Honoring Our Body Beyond Modesty & Intimacy With God
Both the world and believers look at sex in very different lights, however, sex holds a magnitude of power in both views, I think. (And the following is more so my opinion and what led me to write the direction I felt)
The worldly view of sex is very perverse. The deception and lies of attraction. Feeling confident through sex. Feeling beautiful and desired because of sex.
Our Christian view of sex tends to have two particular ways of looking at it and discussing it. If those having sex are not married it is sexual immorality…and a lot of times we leave it there. We do not discuss it further. Often times teens get very strict and narrow messages of sex because of this. I was one of them. (Also, I am not supporting sex out of marriage, for the record.)
The second view of sex, in regards to a godly marriage, is again pretty powerful and weighty. We hold sex in very high esteem. I spoke about sex not being the answer to save a marriage, but I want to clarify, it does NOT only have to do with a broken marriage. Some people really put, in my opinion, too much focus on sex in a GODLY marriage, you heard me. It’s about connection, it’s about intimacy, I’m sure you’ve heard it before which is why I did not talk about it much.
This is why I added, “Sex is brief between husband and wife. It’s a connection, a very intimate one, that is meant to bond the couple together.”
But when we look at our marriage with someone, growth, often times was not because of the sex we had with our spouse. Do you see what I’m saying? The intimacy that sex brings, the union and love a couple should have together, only comes through proper communication, acknowledgment, to know that your husband does what he can to support you, and to know that your wife does what she can to support you. Sex is really meaningless and purely physical (like the world) if we do not have these aspects in the marriage and that connection.
Sex is only one factor of a marriage. An important and special one, yes, but it is still only one factor. I do not think it should have as much focus and as much influence as it does, especially in a godly marriage. That’s my opinion at least, please feel free to disagree with me 🙂
Sex does not solve problems when a couple has a fight, disagreement, isn’t feeling heard, basic problems that will naturally happen in a marriage, it does not have to be broken.
I think when a couple is praying together, talking, engaging each other’s company, all of these different factors, when they all come together, then sex truly has that special connection, bond, and intimacy in a godly marriage. But this is a daily effort…
Which is why I connected it to the fact of being modest or being Christlike is only one aspect of what it means to be intimate with God, to be His temple, to know Him, and to fully understand His connection to us.
Going to church, reading His Word, praising Him, praying, meditating on scripture, sharing the gospel, being Christlike, etc. Separately these things do not really matter in regards to our walk with Him, and a lot of times we as believers are really good at one or two things. It’s hard to give Him everything, all of us, daily. That’s the point of understanding what it means to be His temple. We need all of these aspects of our life to be given to Him to have that intimacy with Him.
And it helps when we really understand the magnitude of what He did for us, and how that precious bond He gave us can overrule everything else this world tempts us with. That’s what I want believers, teens, and others to think about. We know the scriptures that say “do not do this,” and many people preach on the “do nots,” but we do not talk about the “why” enough.
And His name is Jesus Christ.
I hope this post has clarified and cleared up any confusion my last post may have caused. 🙂
What are your views on a godly marriage?
Is there anything I haven’t discussed in these past two posts you think I should spend more time in talking about? Let me know 🙂
What other topics are you interested in?
Month Scripture (NIV) Job 2:10, “Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?”
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