This is at least going to be a two-part post series. Today is the introduction. We’re going to discuss how deception sinks not only in romance movies/books but in Christian romance novels as well. We’re going to talk about the pressure set in the world around us.
Looking back now, I only had media and the googly eyes students gave each other in the hall to have a glimpse of what I thought was a relationship in the world of dating. I honestly think my main desire at 12 was to be liked by someone. For someone to notice me like I noticed them. *Cue the imaginative “fantasy” of the boy I crushed on saying he liked me. Gasp! And end curtain.
That was it.
I truly had NO idea what a relationship in the sense of dating meant, and I was young enough to not fully grasp how special dating honestly should be. I was fixated and imaginative on how I thought things be would like. Cheesy romantic lines, being showered with attention from my special guy…I hope I wasn’t the only teen who thought somewhat selfishly…
As a believer, we are to be selfless, not self-focused. But this world is all about selfishness. There is a lot of deception in romance movies and novels. A lot of hidden entitlement.
Scripture teaches husbands to put their wives about themselves, however, that does not mean our husbands will put us on a pedestal, that’s a form of idol worship. I think women and young girls sometimes walk into a relationship with the wrong kind of expectation. “You can’t be flawed, however, I can be, that makes me cute, and you can’t point out any of my flaws.”
I admit I’m a stubborn woman, having media only enforce it’s okay for me be stubborn will not help me grow.
And then we have the sexual tension and passion pushed in romantic movies and novels. This is actually seen in many Christian romance novels too. A Christian YouTuber I follow, Katie, talked about how she was a huge fan of those books as a teen. But then she started to notice even if a setting was in the 1700 or 1800s things would be sexualized that shouldn’t be. “Gasp! He saw her silky white ankle!.” First kisses may be two pages long. That kind of stuff, it’s the same thing, just not as modern as today. (Katie owned 111 Christian Romance Novels just FYI, she knows what she is talking about.)
Katie’s Video | Please Don’t Read Christian Romance Novels
Katie’s First Video On Topic | Why This Christian Hates Christian Romance Novels
Now with all of this being said, I haven’t touched on how to handle being single as a Christian, particularly focusing as a Christian female. Truthfully, I think with the world we live in there’s a lot of pressure. There’s a lot of misinformation. Like Katie discussed, it’s even sinking into Christian romance novels that teens read.
I’ve read posts by Christian teen bloggers who are excited to date because of the Christian romance books they’ve read. This worries me! Those books…90% FICTION books are meant for entertainment purposes only. Yet with the movies, the novels, and innocence of a believer deception lurks at the door.
Its temptation is enticing as subtle as it is. However, we only need one foot in the door to start opening the door.
What I am going to cover will not be with a pointed finger. I am going to rely on my past experiences as a Christian teen, following what I’ve learned as I matured, and then focus on scripture help.
Everything in life is not roses. Our fantasies are not reality. The world’s lies are not truth. Loving someone of this world and loving Jesus Christ are two different things. Often times there will be sacrifices we have to make, priorities to choose. And we can only serve one master.
In the next post, I want to talk about ways to strengthen our walk with Christ. Ways to stay focused. If you truly desire to have the right walk with Him, if He is your Lord and Savior, then tighten the belt of truth around your waist and hold the sword of the Spirit at your side because it is easy to get sidetracked with feelings when it comes to dating and staying single while you wait.
Part Two You can Read Here – False Expectations, Drawing Close To Christ | Single Christian Girl
This post was inspired by a wonderful blogger friend of mine, Tammy. I hope this post and the next one are not disappointing 🙂
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