When people stumble me I care too much most of the time to be open and express my feelings. This was an issue I had when I was a young teen that carried all the way through college. I am slowly trying to be more vocal and honest.
Honesty is not an attack.
Expressing your feelings and how something affects you is not wrong. However, the words we use and how we speak can be.
Being a Christian does not mean you are to be passive. It does not mean I am to be passive. We are to be humble. We are to be forgiving. But how are people going to know what we are struggling with if we are not honest?
We are encouraged in scripture to be open. If we have an issue, we need to go to that person and speak. Not with anger. Not with slander.
This is why I work on saying “I feel” and “I think” trying to avoid “YOU” statements all the time only accuses people. I am by far perfect expressing myself with wording or being vocal at all.
There is always the chance people will misunderstand. There is always a possibility people will be mad. We also will not perfect and will struggle to be clear in expressing ourselves. We may be tempted with our emotions to lash out.
(NIV) Galatians 6:01, “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.”
But that does not mean we should run from the issue. It does not mean we should not be honest with others. Even if it is hard. Trying to be honest about our feelings should be an opportunity for us to grow with one another. It should be a way we can practice our listening and communicating skills.
I know I’m not perfect. I fear my honesty may stumble others. But I also know when I’ve been stumbled. I hate confrontation. But I know I need to work on it.
How will any of us grow otherwise?
(CEV) Matthew 18:15, “If one of my followers sins against you, go and point out what was wrong. But do it in private, just between the two of you.”
Do you struggle with confrontation?
How do you open up about what bothers you?
Monthly Scripture – (NIV) Galatians 6:17, “From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus.”
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