We Live In A “Woe Is Me” Passive Aggressive Society

The world wants us to feel justified in our pain.

I’m not talking about understanding when people hurt us, it is wrong.

I’m talking about grudges, bitterness, anger, and reliving our pain over and over again. It not only hurts us, but it creates a monster inside. One full of passive aggression, barriers galore, and arrows ready to strike others when they fail us. 

(NIV) Romans 3:10, “As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one.”

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Everyone is not perfect. People fall short. But it is so easy for us to immediately point out the flaws of others, especially those who have hurt us, and we, in turn, struggle to understand how hypocritical we are.

As others have touched on, Christ makes this point by saying it is easy for us to see a SPECK in the eye of others. However, we are not aware there is a PLANK in ours. Meaning, to everyone else and especially God, it is obvious what we struggle with. But we are blind to it.

(NIV) Luke 6:42, “How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

I dare add that perhaps since we are not seeing clearly, as Christ says, what if we see “specks” in other people that are not really there? Things we think others should work on but in fact, there are no problems for that individual to grow from. But because our vision is not clear, we think others are flawed. Instead of admitting our flaws we try to correct others to make ourselves feel and look better. 

Example, people point out something that is true about us. We internalize it as an attack. When the truth is we are sensitive to admit our faults, and therefore, instead of admitting the truth, we attack those trying to help. We turn it on others and make them look bad. We hold on to the fact we must be right and they must be wrong.

(NLT) 1 John 1:08, “If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth.”

We struggle to show compassion because we want OUR feelings to be recognized and compensated for. We want validation through others. We especially like our pain, to a degree, because through the pain and wrong of others we come out in glory. We come out potentially with people praising our humbleness of what we’ve gone through. We live in the compassion of others desiring we no longer hurt. We thrive secretly with proud lips as others speak badly about the ones who hurt us.

(NIV) Romans 3:11, “No one is truly wise; no one is seeking God.”

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I can only imagine the disgust God has with us. He loves us, yes, but He certainly does not agree with all our behavior. It’s upsetting to Him, I’m sure, because many of us who proclaim to pray, talk to Him and praise His name, thrive in our pain and ridiculing others for hurting us.

We wear the mask of walking in Christ’s footsteps, but we haven’t even started to walk His path.

What do we know of His love and His forgiveness when we can’t even give it to those who need it from us? 

(NIV) Psalm 53:02, “God looks down from heaven on all mankind to see if there are any who understand, any who seek God.”

The world will join us in looking down on those who have looked down on us. It agrees with nodded heads we deserve better than how we were treated.

But in the perspective of what Christ did for us, and how we treat Him on the daily…
I promise you….we do not look perfect in the light either…far from it. 

We want to point our fingers at others and say, “Look at what they did to me!” and Christ says to us, “Look at what I did for you.”

Wake up, Christian.

Wake up one who may read this post and think of others who could benefit from reading!

Wake up one who claims to follow Christ.

Are we?!

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Monthly Scripture – (NLT) 1 Timothy 1:19, “Cling to your faith in Christ, and keep your conscience clear. For some people have deliberately violated their conscience and as a result, their faith has been shipwrecked.” 

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12 thoughts on “We Live In A “Woe Is Me” Passive Aggressive Society

  1. In regards to unforgiveness, bitterness, etc., it’s good to live by the wise saying: “unforgiveness is like drinking poison, hoping to kill your enemy.”
    Most of us don’t respond well to criticism, but instead of going to others, we need to take it to the Lord and in all humility and sincerity ask the Lord if we need to work on that area of our life. If He says, “Yes” then dive in and work with the Lord on it. This, I think, would be the Christian way to approach criticism. As you quoted above, no one is perfect and we all have things we need to work on.

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    1. Amen! We is crucial we go to the Lord instead of allow our mouth to set fire to the forest when we are hurting. God is wonderful at guiding us, and He is powerful at transforming us from the inside out 🙂 Unforgiveness is certainly a good comparison for poison!


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