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I Thought It Was Okay… | The Gossip We Aren’t Aware Of

There are a lot of different topics I’ve been sorting through. I know God is brilliant at teaching and I believe, and have seen His mighty works in my life to prepare me in covering these topics. I also know some of the most “pure” growth I can experience in Christ…is in pain.

Now, I’m not referring to when life gets us down, and hardships appear out of nowhere. Oh no. I mean the traps placed so perfectly within our own line of sight and walk into them without a second thought. We feel no pain in those traps.

Our flesh feels quite at ease, honestly.

But the Holy Spirit isn’t.

Dear beloved of Christ know and remember this. When He tells us if we seek Him we will find Him, He means it. But more often than not this is NOT because we need comfort… it’s because we need a Father.

One of my favorite scriptures as a child was the infamous Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord. But what you nor I may have realized these verses later follow a stronger truth of why we must trust the Lord. I knew this scripture but did not realize it was shortly after my favorite scripture.

(NLT) Provers 3:11-12, “My child, don’t reject the LORD’s discipline, and don’t be upset when He corrects you. For the LORD corrects those He loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom He delights.”

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Recently, I’ve been praying for the Lord to use me as an example. Convict me, and show me where I am wrong. It’s easy to say the words… much less be able to swallow the pride of being guilty and wrong.

An event was brought up in my life that revolved around a discussion. A discussion that, as most do, started out harmless. I have a habit in life of being misunderstood, and I’m working through when to stay silent, and when to further explore and explain around those who misunderstand. Certain things were touched on and I had a stance of as a believer we should be aware.

Now to clarify, the actual topic had to do with music, and how influencers, of any kind, may “appear” like they are a follower of Christ when they are not. A few names were referenced as for the hypocritical material. Someone who sings a hymn…easily sings about something unwholesome as well. Scripture is clear.

(NLT) Matthew 7:20, “Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.”

I so rightly felt I should have pointed out how hypocritical certain individuals can be and how it is misleading to the audience.

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The discussion at the end came out to be very productive. It really was a moment of blessing and forgiveness. That’s the part I really want to talk about.

Admitting I was wrong…

I’ve grown so much in the past few months with God and with my sisters in Christ. I really thought I was on the right track. By the blood of Jesus Christ and the workings of the Holy Spirit, I am. I have the confidence in Christ to say that, and through Christ, I can boldly proclaim it. But this does not mean I am perfect. It doesn’t mean God will stop to continue to examine me and show me the pieces of my flesh I still cling to. 

I so foolishly thought I couldn’t get caught up in something so…trivial…as gossip.

I say trivial because since my late teens I try to be really careful about what I say about others. Not spreading rumors. Speaking the truth. However, gossip comes in many forms, especially when we think sharing details about a situation…is okay.

A fellow sister brought up this article to my attention. After reading, I was sharply rebuked in my spirit, any last shreds of I have this I can claim…dissipated.

Guarding Against Gossip | Set Apart Girl

I highly, HIGHLY recommend you read the article for yourself.  

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You see, the gossip the author brings up is related to the other form “juicy” details. Not rumors, but truth. Problems we experience with friends or other people in our life. In the moment, of our distress, we open up about our hurts and how others have affected us. We want to work through these feelings. We want to bond with our sisters and brothers in Christ in opening up about our struggles.

We, by opening up, mean no ill well. We don’t think it’s wrong.


In doing so, certain pictures can be created in the minds of others, thus creating particular barriers or discords. We may unintentionally make people choose sides.

Do people, even those close to us, need to know specific details about others they do not know, even if we are involved?

If you think you know what gossip is you might want to read the second part of this I Was Wrong About What I Said | The Gossip We Aren’t Aware Of

Monthly Scripture –(NKJ) Proverbs 18:13, “He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.”

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17 thoughts on “I Thought It Was Okay… | The Gossip We Aren’t Aware Of

  1. Wow, this was so good. I can definitely say I am guilty of this. God was talking to me about the power of my words last night. This is another side I never considered. We must ask the Holy Spirit for help in finding the proper balance. And not just for venting purposes, but as we strive to share our testimony. Much of our story involves others. Thank you for posting this, it’s good food for thought.

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  2. I’m convinced that gossip should be replaced with Gospel. The news people need to hear is about Jesus and His promises. A lot of our time is spent talking about trivial matters instead of eternal truths.

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  3. Good point. Even if what we are saying is true, we should consider whether those things need to be said anyway. “Only say what is necessary for building up the body of Christ.” I read a Christian blogger’s post a few days ago about this topic, and she told a story about her asking her friend why she left her old church and attends a different church, and instead of taking the bait, the lady replied that she did not want to dishonor her old church. What a powerful example! I want to be that spiritually mature!

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  4. Confidentiality isn’t just for doctors and paperwork. I learned I was a much better friend and human when I learned to keep my mouth shut but my heart open! Thank you for your posts!

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    1. It can be hard to slow down but the Holy Spirit is wonderful at convicting us! Jesus is our example. I’m still learning so much about it is okay to be weary, how to be weary and what to look out for. How to encourage others to be weary, too but careful about how we form judements and opinions, yes!

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