I needed to know I was right in situations. I needed to know people were wrong about what they did and what they said. But once I knew the truth and was freed, I then grew too confident that I didn’t have struggles of my own I needed to work on.
Sometimes in life, we will be in situations with others. People say things towards us or do things, they believe they have the right to. We get rebuked, lectured or criticized. We then go to God in prayer for clarification, and (sometimes) the same person who felt so right shares they were convicted and wrong.
I’ve been in these situations multiple times.
In particular, I’ve been rebuked and lectured often in my life for things God revealed I was RIGHT in. The confirmation has helped me because often in the past I was so confused why people misunderstood me. I now realize the truth of scripture when brought up is often difficult to hear. Second, whenever I say something that is challenging to another believer, it makes sense someone might have an issue with that.
But before I go and slap myself a big CONGRATS on the back…
God showed me what it meant to step back. To hold my tongue (book of James). To remain silent and go to Him. So many times He has helped me understand whatever I’m dealing with in the Bible, or godly men/women have been able to clarify scripture on the topic. However, it was only after I sought Him first. I sought Him before I spoke and I sought Him afterward.
It helps very much when a confirmation is given that shows my actions or words were correct, and more importantly, how God used it to help someone else for His glory.
However…I regret to say sometimes the blessing of confirmation, not through any fault of the Lord, becomes…an ego trip.
I have to admit that. I’ve been trampled on (throughout the years) so much through others’ opinions and sudden desire to “lecture” or “rebuke” me that when I finally get the confirmation, “I was right, for once. They understand and see what I am saying.” It becomes an anchor for me to “always” trust certain “feelings” that I am, therefore, “allowed” to say certain things. That because in certain situations it was godly to say things, this then allows me to think I can say these things in all other situations without checking my mind, heart, soul, and strength. Am I doing this for God or for me?
It’s not even about trying to “speak up” for myself. Which sometimes becomes my excuse. “I need to say something.” No, it needs to be, “I need to say something IF God’s word shows me it is Biblical and I need to be praying over the situation before I make any decisions.”
Unfortunately, I blurt out thoughts, opinions, and perspectives before taking them to the Lord, or even give Him a second thought of, “Help me understand Your truth and speak Your truth properly.”
I catch myself saying things…after the words have left my tongue.
I didn’t slow down and meditate on His word.
I didn’t take time to pray over what I would say, or for the person/situation.
I merely walked ahead without looking both ways.
We need to be willing to listen to what He is teaching us in His word before we get hit in the middle of the street.
Simply because we thought we knew better.
Can you relate?
Monthly Scripture – (NIV) 2 Corinthians 4:02, “Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God.”
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