How To Deal With Difficult Posts & Comments | Christian Blogger

This has been a question I’ve had a couple of times from Christian bloggers. I hope this is helpful. ❤ 

I’ve seen some Christian bloggers write very opinionated posts, with some hurtful statements and then end their post telling people they need to be nice in the comments.

If we are not nice in our OWN posts, how do you think that will relate in the comments if someone DOES NOT agree with us, and is upset by what we said?

It’s hypocritical.

Christian bloggers write on big topics and yet run at the drop of a hat when, lo and behold, someone disagrees with them, and the blogger cannot take it.

IF you are a writer. IF you are a blogger. YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED to everyone agreeing with you. I AM NOT ENTITLED to everyone agreeing with me.

Writing is about having thick skin. However, being a follower of Christ goes so much deeper than this. We are not only to have a thick skin but we are also to be humble and kind. Seeking the best for others, even enemies. And this includes how we discuss these topics in our writing, and how we interact with others.

I’ll say it, yes, there are people who are just going to try to troll you or take advantage of the topic and try to make you mad or look bad.

There are times when it is totally okay to ignore certain comments that do not relate to the topic, are slanderous, or create discord. 

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However, a number of times, people are going to disagree, but their statements might not be meant to purposely trip up the blogger.

Closing the comments because you do not want people to discuss what you wrote and because you do not want to read what people might say, defeats the main reason to write. 

We write to reach others. We write to connect. We write to encourage and stir up engagement in conversation. It is extremely selfish, and not what it means to be Christlike to have our say, and then silence everyone else.

It’s not fair.

If we cannot take the consequences of writing about a particular topic, then we do not need to write about it.

We cannot lash out at others in our writing because this will easily anger others. Again, this is not what it means to be like Christ. Writing a heated post, and trying to justify it by saying, “Christ flipped a table, I’m allowed to speak this way,” is not the same thing.

My Experience With Difficult Posts/Comments

I’ve written about how we cannot be passionate Christians in November of 2017, and it stirred up a lot of Christians.

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Ironically, in the comments, people wanted to defend passionately why we can be passionate and they were not wrong for reasons they listed. In fact, I later wrote a clarity post because I realized many commenters were misunderstanding what I was saying.

This will happen. Do not assume people will understand everything you say. Sometimes people will see one point of your post, and they may miss everything else. Don’t take it personally, I know from experience how tempting it can be. Address the misunderstanding properly : ) sometimes, it’s because of how we wrote the post.

In the post, I directed people’s reactions in the comments, and let them know I understood where they were coming from. Once people saw and felt understood, guess what, they were calm. It was a little difficult being my first big reaction post, but I learned a lot about patience with others, clarity, and to listen. Major discussions on a blog are NOT a bad thing!

I am thankful for the kindness, encouragement, and support of others. But I also am grateful for constructive criticism, a different perspective, and people adding more to the conversation than just praise. Yeah, it may take me a while to soak in everything, but that’s the blessing of how God helps us. It also may push us to add another post for clarity, which I have done a few times. 

Every time we struggle as a writer or as a blogger because of a commenter, we have an opportunity to grow. I’ve learned how to discern better when someone is stumbling me up.

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In my post of 300 followers, I had to call out someone who (for over a month) was ignoring what I was writing and only leaving lecturing comments or comments that were really confusing. I did not name the person. I did not name the gender. I just said if someone comments something that does not relate or is extremely stumbling I will delete the comment. After this post, the person that was stumbling me unfollowed and stopped commenting. They knew what they were doing.

Since our blog is public, when someone disagrees with us it can be a great opportunity for us to show kindness. Not only to that person but then for other people reading the comments, we can be an example to those reading on how to handle comments like that. And like my story, there may come a time we will have to address certain things.

But we can’t do this if we are emotional, and all about our feelings.

Keep These Things In Mind:

  • Do not be emotional or rant about serious topics. Leave your sarcasm and opinion out of it. GO. TO. SCRIPTURE. & TELL. THE. TRUTH!
  • Be willing to not post when you are emotional or too attached to the topic.
  • Listen to what your commenters are saying, step away at first if they rile you. Perhaps get a second opinion. Tone cannot be heard on how comments are written.
  • If you must explain, do so with kindness. DO NOT ENGAGE in repeated comments on your side versus their side.
  • You will probably not persuade someone in the comments if you couldn’t convince them in your post. Don’t waste your time. Do not be pulled in.
  • For posts that may be difficult for your audience try to address concerns or thoughts, commenters might bring up IN your post before you publish.
  • Should multiple people address the same issues, you may need a clarity post furthering those thoughts with your explanation.
    Being a Christian blogger is about standing out, as scripture says, and we do not want to be standing out because we are throwing stones back in our posts and in the comments.

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30 thoughts on “How To Deal With Difficult Posts & Comments | Christian Blogger

  1. I’ve been tempted at times to close the comment sections on certain drafts I was working on in the past, but I ended up trashing those posts because, like you said, disabling discussion defeats the purpose of writing at all. Sharing blog posts on topics I struggle with myself has been hard when someone comments their differing opinion, but it has really taught me how to be secure in my own beliefs and to not be swayed by the thoughts and decisions of others. 🙂

    The one post that comes to mind the most for me was where I wrote about my college choices. I was encouraging others my age to follow what the Lord places on their heart and not to immediately choose college simply because it’s the norm after high school. I got so many comments by people who talked about why they think college is a must, so I really don’t know why they commented 😆 but I knew the Lord wanted me to share that post for others in situations similar to mine. 😊 I’m learning about how to accept differing points of view without it affecting me personally.

    This was a great post! ❤

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    1. Amen, Maggie!!!! God has been teaching me so much about stepping away. It’s still hard, but there’s progress!

      I noticed people sometimes get really defensive about particular views and i think it is because they struggle to see the other side. I have a number of posts on church and the posts often are not about going to church, but what church means. I’ve had to quote the same scripture because if I do not people will tell me not to forsake the assembling of ourselves, etc. I’ve had people misunderstand and think I’m against church…and I’m not. Never have been . I have a home church I still attend when I visit and some church families I’ve met along the way.

      When new ideas get presented, I think we sometimes feel like we have to explain why we choose x,y, or z. And I suppose in posts like that, it is the same for a lot of people. Or they want to make sure we are aware of all views, and even if we are already, I think the reader may have only taken a point or two away from the post. I try to kindly direct these thoughts in the post so when a commenter makes the same point, I can point out where I directed that thought.

      Way to go on creating discussion!!!!! You did touch on a sensitive topic, especially for our world, but, girl, that’s so awesome! We need more perspectives, especially as followers of Christ ❤ Way to go!

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      1. That’s one of the most frustrating things about making content online … people read/hear what they want to read/hear! They’ll take a bit of something you said and then completely twist it around, and that can get so frustrating. I’ll feel sometimes like it’s my fault, like I wrote something wrong, etc, but it’s about how they’re choosing to perceive it. I do my best to write in a positive, non-condemning way, and I can’t help it if people get upset sometimes. That’s why post-skimming can be dangerous 😂 because you’ll probably read something incorrectly!

        Yup, people love explaining stuff lol. It frustrates me when someone will comment their views on whatever topic I’ve written about and not respond at all to anything I’ve said 🤷🏻‍♀️ I never end my posts with “what are your views on ____?” because people get so fired up!

        It definitely is a sensitive topic. I’m glad I shared that post, even though some of the comments were hard to read, because if it helps at least one person, then it’s worth it. 💜 Thank you!

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      2. Ohhhh, yes, about post skimming!!! With posts that are on certain positions, before I go and say something, I try to make sure I have a grasp on what is being said. It does feel like some commenters will only have one position, and yes, it can be frustrating. I struggle…to be humble and loving lol because that does rile me.

        But I want to be like Jesus, not even flinch. Like the kid’s song, Sue suggested to me on the other post, He’s still working on me ❤

        Hahaha, oh my! Yes, the what are your views on…like…blogger…do you REALLY want to know xD cause I don't think you do.

        I had comments read well since you asked…cause i have asked for opinions before….and then I'm like, oh, yeah, kicks dirt…🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 what are you gonna say xD Most of the time it isn't that bad though.

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      3. People will get defensive, like they feel like you wrote the post to specifically bash them 😂 like wow, nope 😂

        I don’t want commenters like that to turn me off from topics that need writing about, so that’s definitely something the Lord’s working on in me.

        When people have views, they have VIEWS!!!

        Oh dear 😆 you can just tell they’re gettin’ fired up!

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      4. I think people misunderstand sometimes how conviction works, and you know, often that is where I see people get defensive. Maybe they have judged certain topics wrong, but now, they struggle to admit it, so they must explain why their side is right. You can usually tell if that is the case mainly in how those comments are written.

        Hahaha!!! Yes!!!!

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    1. ❤ I think your blog absolutely provides that! I've seen your community in the comments, and rarely do I see negativity, which is so wonderful!

      That was something God encouraged me with. If the majority is positve that is what I need to focus on. If it is negative, see if I can take away something, and if I can't try to bless the person anyway, still working on the last part ❤

      I still struggle from time to time, but usually because I'm emotionally invested, and I have to step back and go to God on what to do. Again, still working on that. ❤

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      1. Yes, I don’t get negativity much at all. I love my community and they are awesome but a couple stress me out. I just don’t know how to properly shake ppl off that make me question their motives. I want to be kind but also have proper boundaries. Especially, if things get too personal with the opposite gender.

        I love your honestly and greatly appreciate it. I had no idea blogging would be so hard yet rewarding. I do think God is using you in powerful ways. I’m blessed by your presence here on WordPress and in my life. ❤🤗

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      2. Oh, Vivian, many hugs!!!!!

        If people are tripping you up, I’d recommend seeing if they are discussing the post, how they are directing questions or responses, and if you ever feel uncomfortable you can block the person or delete their comment and not engage. It is your blog, you have authority and protection over yourself and then what other readers read in the comments.

        I see some commenters have “questions” about Christ or Christianity and if the post I have does not represent the question, I delete the comment. If it does not relate to the post and could cause a potential of a debate, no. I’ve seen a lot of bloggers get trolled by these “questions” and truthfully, these kind of questions, if they were legit, really should not be asked on a blog. But they are always an inspiration to potentially direct the topic in a further post.

        Sometimes it is okay to put your foot down, especially with the opposite gender. There are boundaries and when people cross those boudaries and are disrespectful, in any way, there are consequences. It does not mean you are harsh. It means you hold true to what is honorable.

        I comment to 99% of comments but there are a few comments I do not comment to, and most of those sadly get deleted either because they do not relate to the post or things get out of hand, sometimes by my own fault, which I have recognized. This is why I encourage not to continue engaging uncomfortable conversation, or opposing sides. ❤

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      3. Thank you TR. I ended up blocking him and feel much better now! A fiery dart from the evil one which I feel was a test. I greatly value everything you have said and want to say thank you. ❤❤❤

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  2. I believe that Christians need to be able to agree to disagree. If you read a post and disagree with what someone is saying spend time reading the bible. See if maybe you misunderstood something. See if God is trying to teach you something. I don’t agree with every post that I read online but I’ve found that I can always learn something. Sometimes I feel more strongly that I’m right. Sometimes I find out how wrong I can be.

    When you comment on someone’s blog always cover what you are saying in love. There are a hundred ways to say something. You can have the best intentions but if you say something the wrong way the person you are trying to correct isn’t going to hear you.

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    1. Love all of this ❤ ❤ ❤ !!!!

      Sometimes I think there are some things we cannot agree to disagree on, if scripture is abundantly clear. However, I love what you are saying and pointing to Christ and His truth throughout!!! Yes, we need to step aside and go to Him! Yes, there will be somethings we feel more strongly about and others we will see how wrong we are. Amen!!!

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      1. “Sometimes I think there are some things we cannot agree to disagree on, if scripture is abundantly clear.”
        Yes, good point. I think when that happens, we must simply, respectfully, state the truth and decide against engaging further (once the lines have clearly been drawn).

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