This has been a question I’ve had a couple of times from Christian bloggers. I hope this is helpful. ❤
I’ve seen some Christian bloggers write very opinionated posts, with some hurtful statements and then end their post telling people they need to be nice in the comments.
If we are not nice in our OWN posts, how do you think that will relate in the comments if someone DOES NOT agree with us, and is upset by what we said?
Christian bloggers write on big topics and yet run at the drop of a hat when, lo and behold, someone disagrees with them, and the blogger cannot take it.
IF you are a writer. IF you are a blogger. YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED to everyone agreeing with you. I AM NOT ENTITLED to everyone agreeing with me.
Writing is about having thick skin. However, being a follower of Christ goes so much deeper than this. We are not only to have a thick skin but we are also to be humble and kind. Seeking the best for others, even enemies. And this includes how we discuss these topics in our writing, and how we interact with others.
I’ll say it, yes, there are people who are just going to try to troll you or take advantage of the topic and try to make you mad or look bad.
There are times when it is totally okay to ignore certain comments that do not relate to the topic, are slanderous, or create discord.
However, a number of times, people are going to disagree, but their statements might not be meant to purposely trip up the blogger.
Closing the comments because you do not want people to discuss what you wrote and because you do not want to read what people might say, defeats the main reason to write.
We write to reach others. We write to connect. We write to encourage and stir up engagement in conversation. It is extremely selfish, and not what it means to be Christlike to have our say, and then silence everyone else.
It’s not fair.
If we cannot take the consequences of writing about a particular topic, then we do not need to write about it.
We cannot lash out at others in our writing because this will easily anger others. Again, this is not what it means to be like Christ. Writing a heated post, and trying to justify it by saying, “Christ flipped a table, I’m allowed to speak this way,” is not the same thing.
My Experience With Difficult Posts/Comments
I’ve written about how we cannot be passionate Christians in November of 2017, and it stirred up a lot of Christians.
Ironically, in the comments, people wanted to defend passionately why we can be passionate and they were not wrong for reasons they listed. In fact, I later wrote a clarity post because I realized many commenters were misunderstanding what I was saying.
This will happen. Do not assume people will understand everything you say. Sometimes people will see one point of your post, and they may miss everything else. Don’t take it personally, I know from experience how tempting it can be. Address the misunderstanding properly : ) sometimes, it’s because of how we wrote the post.
In the post, I directed people’s reactions in the comments, and let them know I understood where they were coming from. Once people saw and felt understood, guess what, they were calm. It was a little difficult being my first big reaction post, but I learned a lot about patience with others, clarity, and to listen. Major discussions on a blog are NOT a bad thing!
I am thankful for the kindness, encouragement, and support of others. But I also am grateful for constructive criticism, a different perspective, and people adding more to the conversation than just praise. Yeah, it may take me a while to soak in everything, but that’s the blessing of how God helps us. It also may push us to add another post for clarity, which I have done a few times.
Every time we struggle as a writer or as a blogger because of a commenter, we have an opportunity to grow. I’ve learned how to discern better when someone is stumbling me up.
In my post of 300 followers, I had to call out someone who (for over a month) was ignoring what I was writing and only leaving lecturing comments or comments that were really confusing. I did not name the person. I did not name the gender. I just said if someone comments something that does not relate or is extremely stumbling I will delete the comment. After this post, the person that was stumbling me unfollowed and stopped commenting. They knew what they were doing.
Since our blog is public, when someone disagrees with us it can be a great opportunity for us to show kindness. Not only to that person but then for other people reading the comments, we can be an example to those reading on how to handle comments like that. And like my story, there may come a time we will have to address certain things.
But we can’t do this if we are emotional, and all about our feelings.
Keep These Things In Mind:
- Do not be emotional or rant about serious topics. Leave your sarcasm and opinion out of it. GO. TO. SCRIPTURE. & TELL. THE. TRUTH!
- Be willing to not post when you are emotional or too attached to the topic.
- Listen to what your commenters are saying, step away at first if they rile you. Perhaps get a second opinion. Tone cannot be heard on how comments are written.
- If you must explain, do so with kindness. DO NOT ENGAGE in repeated comments on your side versus their side.
- You will probably not persuade someone in the comments if you couldn’t convince them in your post. Don’t waste your time. Do not be pulled in.
- For posts that may be difficult for your audience try to address concerns or thoughts, commenters might bring up IN your post before you publish.
- Should multiple people address the same issues, you may need a clarity post furthering those thoughts with your explanation.
Being a Christian blogger is about standing out, as scripture says, and we do not want to be standing out because we are throwing stones back in our posts and in the comments.
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Can you relate as a blogger? What has your experience been like?
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