When I was a teen, I was deceived in believing I “needed” a boyfriend. I remember praying out to God, crying out sometimes, for someone, a boyfriend, to be provided to me so that I would feel “understood.”
Let me tell you, even after I had a boyfriend, no one understood me better than Jesus Christ.
Even when I was dating there was still that emptiness that my boyfriend could not fulfill. The same is in marriage. Hollywood has given us this lie that we “need” to be understood and connected on a deep level IN ALL WAYS with this spouse. Now, do not get me wrong, we do need to have strong communication. Marriage requires that we understand our spouse. (Understand, this is not purely the husband focusing on the wife. Wives need to focus on their husbands in this way, too. This is not a take, take, take relationship.)
Something God was teaching me since I was about 13 years old is that there is a level within me no man, no mortal, can reach except the Savior. There is a level of understanding, comfort, wisdom, and yes, an intimacy that no one will ever get from us aside from the Lord.
In fact, it is RESERVED for Him because He is the only One who can enter our temple. Only Jesus can dive into the farthest parts of our soul. Only our Savior, our Refiner, can take the darkest thoughts and parts of us and make them clean.
All of these actions should be treasured. This intimacy with the Lord should be valued. God fulfills us more than any man can. As a wife, we NEED this in order to submit to our husbands and support them the way we need. As a single Christian woman or girl, we NEED this for our Groom. (See Post: Dear Single Christian Girl, You’re Already Someone’s Bride)
You read that right, Groom, not groom.
Married or not, we all need to desire, care for, strengthen, and treasure our intimacy with God. In fact, those of you who are single are very precious in His sight because you have the opportunity to have eyes only for Him.
You have an opportunity to be selfish with the Lord in a way a married woman cannot be.
What do I mean by “selfish”? Well, it’s all about you and Him. You desire Him so much that’s all you want and care about. You have more time for worship, prayer, devotions, and fellowship than those in a relationship.
As a Christian, if we truly believe in what we claim, then we need to step forward with the truth that God shall supply all of our needs. I know many women struggle with “when” they will get a boyfriend or husband. This time you have right now, let it NOT be a time of bitterness, but sweet joy.
Relationships can be a blessing, absolutely, but they come with their own sorrows and hurt. When my husband spent a year in Korea because of the military, I was by myself in the home. But it was God who supplied everything I need. A circle of Christian sisters to be around. Fellowship to feed my soul. Countless hours throughout each day I spent with the Lord, that if my husband was home, I wouldn’t have spent. Again, relationships are a blessing, but yes, they will take your time away from the Lord.
It was a rough time, but those times with the Lord were ALWAYS joyful. He carried me in ways no one else could. He provided in ways no one else knew. I grew a lot in Him and I needed that time to grow. I think some wives regress in their walk with Christ because the time that went to Jesus is so easily tempted to go elsewhere to someone or something else.
Do not let the lie that, “If I had this marriage or family, I would be happy. If only this…” People cannot fill in our spirit what the Holy Spirit can fill. We, as mortals, do not have that power.
But Jesus does! HE IS YOUR STRENGTH SISTER! HE IS YOUR GROOM!
He loves you! Now, not later!
Spend time with Him, encourage others to spend time with Him. Be an example to those who haven’t spent time with Him. May you shine so bright in His light people desire Him!
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