Christian women · Relationship with Christ

We Envy Others Because of Our Lack of Submission

This post was a little intro that started my blog, UnAshamed Christian Housewife. Defining submission, and beginning to get the ball rolling.

The tagline for my UnAshamed Christian Housewife blog is, “Submission does not have to be a bad thing” because submission is one of the hardest things for the Christian woman. I think Christan men also carry their own struggles with submission, but this blog isn’t really going to focus on that.

Submission can be turned into an ugly word by the world.

To the world submission could be:

  • Not having a voice
  • Be taken advantaged of
  • Having no independence or freedom
  • Focus is on everyone else but self
  • Not having power
  • Not making a difference
  • Not standing out

To be fair, there are absolutely women who are taken advantage of, women who have no voice, and women who are extremely restricted in what they are able to do.

How I Define Submission 

When I speak of submission, it is not this kind of forced submission on women because there are no other choices. The submission I speak of is always a choice. The submission I want to write about is not a submission this wicked world enforces on women against their will. Check Out: “Wives Submit” What It Really Means | Mike Winger, as Mike makes the point submission cannot be forced upon women Biblically, it’s suppose to be a choice.

The submission I want to focus on is obedience, humility, holding our tongues, be willing for someone else to be in charge, and much more. It is a submission that many women will struggle with, and some women will flat out refuse. This submission, however, is by far considered “weak.”

NOTE: TRUE GODLY SUBMISSION IS NEVER FEAR IN MARRIAGE- We should never be afraid that our husbands will hurt us, if we aren’t submissive to them, that is not a healthy relationship, and I encourage you to seek help, and speak to someone because doing things out of fear is not good and very damaging.

For any woman who has chosen to hold her tongue, show humility, let someone else be in charge, and show obedience out of genuine willingness – knows it is not easy. Not because she is afraid of what will happen if she doesn’t, but because she recognizes the need to hold her tongue, show humility, let others be in charge, and she knows it is for her benefit that submission is not always a bad thing, however, the desire to take control is strong.

The Idolized Worldly Woman

We live in a world where being submissive to our husbands is frowned upon. We live in a world ignorant of the fact that husbands are also to be submissive to their wives. Instead, speaking our minds, being fueled by our emotions, lashing out immediately is encouraged. Many reality shows that women are drawn to encourage judging those who we do not personally know. Righteous judgment is thrown out the door. Check Out: If We Cannot Judge, Then Convos Are Made Void

(NIV) Philippians 4:08, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”

Women who throw tantrums, gossip behind friends’ back, mouth off every chance they get, use intimidation for respect, and getting what they want- these women are held up as idols.

Let me tell you something, power isn’t everything, and I tell you that MANY of these women you idolize, these women you desire the lives of… they are bitter, resentful, angry, and live a fake life on social media. Life isn’t enough for them, and if you struggle with this, you have the same struggle as these idolized women. It’s not good enough. Nothing is ever good enough, and it won’t be, if we hold this mindset and our eyes on others.

We struggle with envying other women. The perfect couple. The wonderful house. The dream job. All of these things are futile. Status and things only get us so far.

Yet, the poorest and sickest woman in the world can have something more precious than rubies (the wisdom of God). She can be recognized for standing out and giving, when she has little. She is noticed for her tongue being held. Her beauty surpasses rags and looks because no one can copy what she carries. 

Jesus Christ is the answer, and in order for us to submit properly to anything and anyone, we need to submit to the King of kings first.

The Gospel Message– The Gospel message is good news, which means there’s bad news. We all are sinners and condemned. We all deserve the just punishment of God’s wrath. Christianity is unlike any other religion because we cannot earn our way into Heaven. God saw the weakness of man and his utter depravity. Yet, He showed us grace. Jesus, God, One Person of the Trinity, became God in the flesh, the God-Man. He was always perfect and sinless. And His humanity was perfected on the cross, living the full sinless life. He became our atonement sacrifice. Dying in our place, taking on the wrath of God upon Himself. He died on the cross, and He was resurrected because death could not hold Him. Jesus is the answer. We, as guilty sinners, need His blood to pay off our debt of sin. For all who put their faith in Him – meaning eyes are opened to the Gospel, we see ourselves as a sinner, we see the need for Christ, we desire our Savior, and we see the ugliness of our sin. Putting our faith in Jesus, we seek HIs forgiveness and repent from our sins, we turn away from our old way of life. We, through the work of the Holy Spirit, continue to become convicted of sin daily. Our eyes will never be the same again. We see things in a different light, and the truth of Christ affects how we live and serve Him. Christ tells us to count the cost. Salvation is a serious topic, it is not to be taken lightly. For a breakdown of this powerful message, understanding how Christ could be God and Man, why God required sacrifices, and more -please see: Why Did A Loving God Kill His Son? (Does God Hate?)

If you think you know the Gospel, check out these questions and see how prepared you are for the day someone might ask you why you believe: The Gospel Challenge (30 Question Quiz) – Are You Ready To Defend Your Faith?

(Originally posted on UnAshamed, November 2020)

Scripture To Memorize/Meditate On – (ESV) 1 Corinthians 1:18, “For the word of the cross is folly to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”

Community Prayer – Community Prayer – February ’22

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Luke 11_39-40, careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy–full of greed and wickedness. Fools! Didn’t God make the inside as well as the outside_

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