What does the journey of a lesbian becoming a Christian look like? Is being homosexual a sin? What does the Bible really say? How should we reach out to those who are gay? Jen is a former lesbian and shares her story with Melissa.
Trigger Warning: There is trauma discussed in Jen’s childhood. I have the time mark where it is mentioned. No details are really given. It’s a brief mention.
I have taken answers given in the video and turned most of them into questions to encourage you to check out the video.
- People struggle with hearing terms like “x-gay”
- Jen’s Childhood
- What was Jen’s parent dynamic regarding faith?
- Jen was a tomboy and people used a particular phrase to describe her, what was it?
- “You take how the world perceives you as who you are.” – Jen
- Trigger – Sexual assault at 10 mentioned – 13 minute 20 second mark
- This assault affected her identity as a female, thinking what happened to her was because it was something about her
- What does Jen say regarding what happened to her? Does it still affect her in any way?
- “For a child it fractures them.” Jen – speaking on sexual assault
- Jen makes the point a child’s life is affected by assault until healing comes.
- If a male hurts a female, who do females seem to be more comfortable around?
- What is the importance of intimacy? How does this follow Jen’s story?
- How did Jen look at God when she was 15? What misconceptions did she have?
- What is Hollywood’s version of love?
- Jen describes a need to fill – what did she try to fill this need with?
- What is the current cultural push on children regarding homosexuality?
- What was Jen’s original view on Christianity? What was more important to her regarding her identity?
- Did people challenge her being a homosexual?
- What was Jen’s reaction when told, “homosexuals go to Hell,” and are there better ways to talk about that?
- Jen entered the New Age in her 20s
- Do all homosexuals attend pride parades, and seek activism? What was Jen’s main focus?
- Jen thought Christians were manipulated
- What did Jen dabble in to try to connect to the supernatural? What were her experiences?
- How did Jen seeking the supernatural connect to emotionalism?
- Jen experienced a toxic relationship for 10 years
- What happened when Jen met an ex-girlfriend who had turned away from homosexuality and became a Christian?
- What did Jen desire when she first prayed out loud? What was she willing to give up if God (the Christian God) was true?
- What book of the Bible first ministered to her? What stood out to her that first ministered to her?
- Does God want us to “just have faith”? How does this quote relate to a cult?
- “Truth doesn’t change.” – Jen
- “How we trust someone is based on their character.” – Jen
- “Truth is perfect. God is perfect… we can’t change perfect.” – Jen
- How did Jen not follow the world telling her that “love is love” and she could still be a Christian?
- “Love is truth…withholding that I think is mean.” – Jen
- “Love is not lust. Love is selfless.” – Jen
- “ ‘I can be with who I want’ has nothing to do with love.” – Jen
- Is there anything we could say or do to change someone? Why does Jen say no?
- “Some people in the church do not let people wrestle with God.” – Jen
- The Bible promises if you seek truth you will find it.
- How did Jen deal with her attraction with women?
- What is the connection of Jesus being the center of our life and our other flesh desires?
- How does Jen describe “laying it down”?
- “When does He say ‘seek your desire’?’” – Jen
- How did Jen accept that homosexuality was a sin? What was her reaction?
- What happens when we approach scripture objectively regarding homosexuality?
- What is Jen’s answer for those who do not think homosexuality is a sin?
- Do we approach scripture as a history book? What happens when we do?
- How is marriage reflective of God?
- “You can’t change what the Bible says to conform to your lifestyle or comfort, it says what it says.” – Jen
- What is the problem when we redefine terms? How does this connect between kids and the world?
- What is the connection of thinking we know better than God and the beginning of the world?
- God can use our weaknesses
- What is the irony of Jen and the ways she has experienced oppression?
- Was Jesus a radical, Buddhist-like guy?
- What is the conflict of wanting a sin to go away, yet hold onto to things that encourage the same sin?
- What is the connection of someone being forgiven much and loving much? What is the connection to the Gospel?
- How do we know we love God?
- “Love is not tolerance.” – Jen
- What does Jen say regarding “feeling free and coming out of the closet” & “I’m not fighting it anymore”?
- Getting satisfaction is not always a good thing
- How does Jen find her identity now compared to when she found her identity through what the world told her?
- What is the confusion when people take on behavior and make it an ”identity”?
- What is the hypocrisy when someone asks a counselor that they do not want to be attracted to the same sex?
- Are we all born children of God?
- What does it mean to be a prisoner of sin? Whose children are we?
Check Out: Over the Rainbow, From Born This Way To Born Again with Jen & Melissa Dougherty & Also Recommended by Melissa- Mike Winger’s Playlist on Homosexuality, the Bible, and how to approach the topic. The first video out of four.
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The Gospel Message– The Gospel message is good news, which means there’s bad news. We all are sinners and condemned. We all deserve the just punishment of God’s wrath. Christianity is unlike any other religion because we cannot earn our way into Heaven. God saw the weakness of man and his utter depravity. Yet, He showed us grace. Jesus, God, One Person of the Trinity, became God in the flesh, the God-Man. He was always perfect and sinless. And His humanity was perfected on the cross, living the full sinless life. He became our atonement sacrifice. Dying in our place, taking on the wrath of God upon Himself. He died on the cross, and He was resurrected because death could not hold Him. Jesus is the answer. We, as guilty sinners, need His blood to pay off our debt of sin. For all who put their faith in Him – meaning eyes are opened to the Gospel, we see ourselves as a sinner, we see the need for Christ, we desire our Savior, and we see the ugliness of our sin. Putting our faith in Jesus, we seek HIs forgiveness and repent from our sins, we turn away from our old way of life. We, through the work of the Holy Spirit, continue to become convicted of sin daily. Our eyes will never be the same again. We see things in a different light, and the truth of Christ affects how we live and serve Him. Christ tells us to count the cost. Salvation is a serious topic, it is not to be taken lightly. For a breakdown of this powerful message, understanding how Christ could be God and Man, why God required sacrifices, and more -please see: Why Did A Loving God Kill His Son? (Does God Hate?)
If you think you know the Gospel, check out these questions and see how prepared you are for the day someone might ask you why you believe: The Gospel Challenge (30 Question Quiz) – Are You Ready To Defend Your Faith?
Scripture To Meditate On – 2 Timothy 3:16-17, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.“
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