Pride Of Finger-Pointing At Church

Updated: 08/27/2022 – Edited. This isn’t my best post, but I do like some of the points made. Hopefully I can write a stronger piece in the future. 

Finger-pointing at church is hypocrisy at its best and it consumes everyone involved.

We often use a church building, a singular place of gathering, as a crutch. We sometimes isolate ourselves from others because of church. It can be a place of pride. People religiously think they are “better” than others and have a better “faith” because they routinely go to the church.

It can be a place of bitterness and anger. How many of you have had toxic experiences at church or STILL struggle, years later, to let it go? I’ve seen the finger-pointing BOTH ways. No one is innocent. Stop belittling believers! Stop acting prideful that a nonperfect person, who is not Christ, hurt your feelings! 

Me. Me. Me.

We focus so much on ourselves it is really hard to focus on others. If you’re like me, you may compare how “kind” and “thoughtful” you are to others, and then wonder why “people aren’t returning the same to me?” See how twisted that is?

We expect everyone else to be Christlike to us, yet, are one of the first to cast stones at others because we were offended, ignored, etc.

This is not to justify that people hurting us is right because it isn’t. The wrongs of others can be very damaging to us, for sure. But I am not going to coddle you. I’m not going to sling more dirt back at the “enemy.” It just makes everyone dirtier.

I’ll repeat that.

It just makes everyone dirtier.

Earlier today, there was a moment I caught myself comparing others. My disappointment in what I wish they would do. I do all of these things for people, and very few do the same for me. Whine. Whine. Whine.

I was convicted on the spot. That’s pride.

Pride is all about satisfying ourselves, which is why humility is the complete opposite of pride.

Bitterness is the child to Pride. I did not always realize that. But it is.

We don’t realize how prideful we have become. So upset at how others have failed us and hurt us, we get swept over by the seed of bitterness. Continuing to blame others, and hold onto our anger and grudges.

Whine. Whine. Whine. Me. Me. Me.

Pride and bitterness hinder us from being grateful and truly content. Even if we think we are grateful, we are tainted because that ONE memory or that ONE person will always make us sour.

We don’t have to be sour. In fact, as a Christian, we are commanded to love others, to put others above ourselves, to think of the interest of others, and to be humble.

True forgiveness breaks chains. But true pride and bitterness only chain us more.

Often, its worse than the initial offense. 

(NIV) Ephesians 4:31-32, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

(NIV) Proverbs 19:11, “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”

(NIV) Matthew 18:33, “Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?'” (story of the wicked servant)

What chains are holding you down today? What do you need to repent from? 

Monthly Scripture – (NIV) Colossians 1:11, “being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience.”

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12 thoughts on “Pride Of Finger-Pointing At Church

  1. Amen!! Great post. I had a bitter experience as a teenager and I kept it with me for many years, letting it consume me. I didn’t stop going to church but that experience really made me bitter until I released it to God. So thankful He is always there, just waiting for us to come to Him.
    Great post! Can’t wait to read your post tomorrow!

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  2. I have had bad experiences while going to church. One time I can remember a woman commented on something I was wearing. I did not have any clothing at the time, so what I had on was all I had to wear. I felt upset and did not go back to the church. I don’t get offended by others in church now because they sometimes don’t realize what they do. We have to pray for them and keep our focus on Jesus.

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  3. Yes! Amen! This is so true! I believe I still struggle with that a lot in many ways, but God is cutting it off from me and I praise Him for the continual growth and progress in forgiving, showing compassion even if I don’t get it back in return, I’ll continue to pray for him or her and move on and keep my focus on Christ as He makes more like Him for His glory. We must forgive, so that we too can be forgiven. God bless!

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